Your Sibling Says Mum Isn't Coping at Home – Are They Overreacting?

28 Mar 2017  |
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    Elderly woman hatHas your brother or sister raised the concern that one or both of your parents are not coping at home? It's often the case that a sibling with the most contact with a parent picks up on issues that other siblings may miss when they visit the family home less often.

    Why do they see things differently?

    Usually it is to do with the length of time spent with a parent. Mum might be able to make a tea and keep a conversation, and dad may generally get around the house over the course of a short visit, but over the course of an entire day, any challenges they are having become more obvious. It might be that your sibling has spent more time with your parents recently, and they've seen cognitive or mobility challenges. These challenges don't mean your parents need to go to a nursing home, but it may be a signal to begin looking at organising some additional support to help them maintain their independence at home.

    What should you do?

    These days, we all use services that help us live our lives more independently. For the elderly, the services commonly involve support around the home and in the community. Being proactive to understand what options are available is a great start. It's also a good idea to have an open conversation with your siblings to discuss the issue. If a sibling is concerned about your ageing parent, you don't have to jump straight to crisis management, but its important to take it seriously. There are many great preventative measures that can help your parents continue living safely and confidently at home for many years to come.

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